DATE or DUMP?
This one should be a no-brainer, but we have a complicating factor. Kids are involved. Vote carefully to help our gal out…
My boyfriend and I have been together four years. We have a child together (and I have two children from a previous marriage). Recently I told him that I think the kids and I should get our own place. He was shocked and upset, and of course begged for another chance. The problem is that this is a pattern that has repeated itself since the start of our relationship. We fight constantly, he puts me down and blames me for everything, and brings to my attention every penny I spend everyday. But then when I pull away or completely ignore him (something I don’t feel right doing), he snaps to attention and swears he’ll change. He shows some improvement for a couple of weeks, but inevitably he returns to his old self. I really think I would be happier living away from him, but I’m not sure how this will affect the kids. Is it better for them to have a father figure, even if he isn’t the most positive person in the world?
What do you say DSN? VOTE NOW:
tags kids, negativity, put downs, Relationships
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Kids have a way of soaking up whatever their parents dish. It’s better to get them as far away from negativity as possible. Plus you’ll give yourself a chance at finding real love. This doesn’t sound like it’s it for you.
Mar 6th, 2010
I know after 4 years, this would be very hard to do. The children will get past it. DON’T stay together for the kids. He should still be in there lives and see them regularly. You and him will hate each other after awhile if you do stay together for the kids. Take it from someone who’s been there and done that. I am now divorced and my children hate me, because I stayed for the kids sake. They heard us fighting and arguing all the time. Also, the seen how unhappy we both were. So, if you stay with him, make sure it’s because you love him!
Mar 6th, 2010
It’s definitely a no-brainer. The kids will be happier if you’re all happy, not if you’re together fighting and unhappy. They will get past it. Think carefully as you might be using the kids as an excuse to yourself not to leave…
Mar 10th, 2010